Sex and drugs have had a “not so secret” love affair since the dawn of consciousness. Mind-altering substances have been used to explore and enhance the ecstatic dimensions of sex as well as the dark and taboo depths. This pairing can blossom into a beautiful experience with a consenting partner. However, without graceful intentions, this pairing has the ability to tear lovers apart.
Sex on Drugs
What drug is best for sex? Let’s explore some of the most popular ones of today.
Sex on drugs is rooted in ancient rituals. They are two of the most desired and addictive acts known to humankind. When paired with intent and purpose it can be an ecstatic and even spiritual event. In Greek tradition women of the town would travel to the top of the mountain to perform sacred sexuality with the help of psychotropic herbs.
Oreibasia; It was an ecstatic ritual performed by women on top of mountain forests. They danced to repetitive drum sounds, ingested herbs with psychotropic properties, and performed sacred sexuality while worshiping the bull-god, Dionysus.
The Dionysian cult did not originate as a release valve for repressed women; rather it was the Greek expression of a pre-patriarchal cultural paradigm where the main deity was once an Earth goddess … ecstatic rites were not peripheral, nor marginalized, but a prominent feature of religious life… women played a fundamental role in the administration of the rites and altered states of consciousness were a “spiritual technology” used to attain mystical knowledge on the paradoxical nature of reality and on humans’ place within the natural world.
—Chiara Baldini, HER SHARE OF DIVINE MADNESS: THE ROLE OF WOMEN IN THE ANCIENT RITES OF DIONYSUS
source from Reality Sandwich Article Chiara Baldini: Researcher, Producer, Artist
Yes, Consent Is Still Everything
As we can see above, sex and drugs have been used for millennia for achieving ritualistic altered states of consciousness. With a consenting partner(s) and harmonious intent, we can still access these altered states of consciousness. In return, having a deeper connection to spirit and source.
Without the important criteria of CONSENTING PARTNERS and harmonious intent, sex on drugs can be a hazardous combination. It even has the potential to damage the psyche permanently. Mindful, responsible, and consenting adults only should partake in such acts.
Before dissecting the most popular drugs to do while having sex, let’s first talk about expectations. The spotlit sections below are purely anecdotal. Every experience someone has while partaking in sex and/or drugs, both separately and in unison, are extremely unique and individualized acts. You will never have the same experience twice. This being said, if you are considering these activities, make sure you are prepared for the un-preparable. And please, remember to pursue these acts with mindful, loving, harmonious intent.
Sex on MDMA
What Is MDMA?
MDMA is a popular drug that acts as both a psychedelic and a stimulant. It is a derivative of amphetamine and a member of the phenethylamine family, which also includes mescaline, 2C-B, speed, and methamphetamine. It induces the release of serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine from the presynaptic neuron into the synapse. This causes the user to experience energizing effects, euphoria, empathy, reduced inhibitions, feelings of connection to others, and enhanced sensation and perception.
What to Expect When You Have Sex on MDMA
MDMA is also known as the “love drug,” causing many physical and emotional changes that can affect the sexual experience. MDMA is called the love drug because it produces a surge in oxytocin. This endogenous chemical in the brain is associated with the feeling of love. The body produces oxytocin during sex, breastfeeding, touch, and childbirth. It is also known as the bonding hormone. The cascade of hormones in the brain may help someone stay in the moment. Sex can feel more intense and connected because you focus solely on the experience. On MDMA, normal human anxieties aren’t riddling your consciousness.
To dive deep into the above information, read our full article on the subject: Having Sex on MDMA.
Sex on GHB
What Is GHB?
GHB, also known as G and liquid ecstasy, is a central nervous system depressant with effects similar to alcohol and MDMA. GHB is a sedative commonly used as a recreational drug due to its euphoriant, empathogenic, and aphrodisiacal effects. It’s an endogenous compound found in trace amounts in the brains of humans and other animals. In the brain, it’s a putative neurotransmitter and regulator of energy metabolism.
By the late 1990s, GHB gained notoriety within the general public as a “date-rape” drug, one of a class of drugs sometimes used in drug-facilitated sexual assault (DFSA). While alcohol and benzodiazepines (particularly flunitrazepam) appear to be the most common date-rape drugs, the press has reported stories of perpetrators secretly adding GHB into the drinks of victims at nightclubs and bars. The perpetrators exploit the fact that liquid GHB is colorless, odorless, and water-soluble. Its ability to produce amnesia, suggestibility, passivity, and increased libido at lower doses have also contributed to its use in this fashion.
GHB, Sex, and Popular Uses
According to Trade Sexual Health, G’s high comes on after about 20 minutes and lasts about one hour, but may last up to four hours. Additionally, a dose of G can make you feel chilled out, horny, or mildly high.
GHB is popular in queer communities for the happy, horny, and temporary effects it has on you when taken in small doses. GHB is frequently used in the chemsex scene. According to Change, Grow, Live, chemsex means using drugs as part of your sex life, and it’s most common among gay and bisexual men. People say these drugs make them feel less inhibited and increase pleasure.
Due to the increase in sexual pleasure and the decrease in inhibition, it is necessary to have sober consent before engaging in any sexual activity. GHB has such a negative reputation as the “date rape drug,” so it is crucial to be mindful of this substance so no negative damage is inflicted upon all involved.
Sex on Cannabis
What Is Cannabis?
Cannabis is part of the plant family Cannabaceae. This family also contains the plant hops, Humulus lupulus, widely known for its use in beer production. There are a wide variety of compounds within the plant with unique properties. These individual compounds produce synergistic and antagonistic properties when used together. Cannabis is well-known as a psychoactive plant, but some debate surrounds its psychedelic nature.
What to Expect When You Have Sex on Cannabis
Due to its psychedelic tendencies, cannabis has the ability to relax its users, improve mood, loosen inhibitions and heighten sexual desires. In scientific terms, the cannabinoids interact with the amygdala’s sensitivity to stimuli, and within these are sexual relations. Therefore these factors can really ignite a night of passion.
According to Thrillist, many users find that the drug enhances their sexuality because it allows them to reach a spiritual connection with their partners. That said, like any other drug, proceed with caution. Always engage in consensual sex – and consensual use of drugs during sex.
Sex on Shrooms
What Is Psilocybin?
Psilocybin is a psychedelic prodrug that is widely known for its entheogen properties. It is found in over 200 species of mushrooms. Fungi, as a species, have played a crucial role in cultivating the Earth. They were one of the first complex life forms to develop on land, helped mammals survive after an asteroid wiped out nearly all life on Earth 65 million years ago, and may be the oldest evolutionary line leading directly to humans. Terence McKenna, an ethnobotanist, even believed the evolution from Homo erectus to Homo sapien resulted from humans eating mushrooms that contain psilocybin.
What to Expect When You Have Sex on Psilocybin
Due to the short attention span that comes with mushroom trips, a sexual exchange isn’t something you can plan. You may spend the majority of your trip so engrossed in the present moment of earthly beauty and nuances that sex isn’t something you can focus on long enough to complete the act. As the trip organically unfolds, it is best to communicate your needs and wants clearly to your partner. Veterans advise that the best time to give it a go for newcomers is on the comedown of the trip, or after the peak. Once you and your lover are more practiced and want to dive into sex while peaking, you’ll get to experience a raw, wild, and luscious terrain.
Magic mushrooms do a great job of helping us break down the societal constructs of structured and/or pornographic sexual experiences. Earth to humans: sex isn’t just about racing to a climax! Sex is a journey of surrender, freedom, bliss, unity, and ecstasy. Below is a beautiful description of a personal psychedelic sexual experience from an anonymous veteran mushroom goddess.
Sex on psilocybin was a very transformative experience for me. I spent the evening with my partner soaking in all the sounds, feelings, tastes, and emotions, within our little bubble and I felt every wall crumbling under the weight of our trip together. I felt the ideas pressed upon us by society melt away as our feminine and masculine selves blended effortlessly. However, I was not a woman and he was not a man; we were just us. I felt his bright pink, fiery feminine energy flowing through my body as my soft blue masculine energy dusted over him. Neither of us had any expectations of the other or our own selves. We simply were existing, not to please or to gain pleasure, but just to exist. It’s so heavy thinking about how much gender roles affect our everyday interactions and it was so freeing to shed those weights.
—Anonymous veteran mushroom goddess
To dive deeper into the above information read Sex on Shrooms.
Sex in LOVE
Sure all of those drugs above sound pretty groovy, but have you ever had a macro-dose of love? That shit will fuck you up! Studies have shown that drugs such as MDMA and GHB release the same hormones that we release when we’re in love.
A study from Harvard explains oxytocin’s role as a “bonding” hormone appears to help reinforce the positive feelings we already feel towards the people we love. That is, as we become more attached to our families, friends, and significant others, oxytocin is working in the background, reminding us why we like these people and increasing our affection for them. This study even shows the similar addictive nature love has in comparison to drugs and other vices.
Dopamine, for instance, is the hormone responsible for the vast majority of the brain’s reward pathway – and that means controlling both the good and the bad. We experience surges of dopamine for our virtues and our vices. In fact, the dopamine pathway is particularly well studied when it comes to addiction. The same regions that light up when we’re feeling attraction light up when drug addicts take cocaine and when we binge eat sweets.
Katherine Wu, graduate student at Harvard University
So, What’s the Best Drug for Sex?
Love Always Wins
Why go through the risk of drugs when you can access the mind-altering dimensions of love? Love releases oxytocin and serotonin in our brains, which creates an ecstatic bond between partners.
MDMA as a Close Second
It’s called Ecstasy for a reason! Due to MDMA’s psychoactive, stimulating and empathetic, and entactogenic effects it makes for the go-to elixir of lovemaking.
Just as love does, the release of oxytocin and serotonin can increase the bond between partners and put them on the more stable ground going forward. MDMA even has groundbreaking psychedelic therapeutic effects for couples.
Alexander and Ann Shulgin, the married co-authors of Research Chemicals, have experienced and researched the effects many drugs have on intimate relationships, and that has always ranked MDMA as number one.